Sex in marriage

Sex in Marriage (God's word and view)                         Last revision: 2017-05-02

1 Cor 7:1-5 (KJV) --

1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.

2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence (#2133): and likewise also the wife unto the husband.

4 The wife hath not power (#1850) of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

5 Defraud (650) ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

Strong's Exhaustive Concordance Original Hebrew and Greek Words in the King James Bible

 Word # 2133- eunoia- kindness: euphem. conjugal duty:- benevolence, good will. 

 Word # 1850- exousiazo- to control:  exercise authority upon, being under the (have) power of.

 Word # 650-  apostereo- to despoil, defraud, destitute, keep back by fraud.

Questions:

What is 'due benevolence'?  [Conjugal duty given in kindness]

Who has authority over sex?  [The spouse has authority over the sexual activity of the partner]

What does 'incontinency' mean?  [Lack of self-control or temptation to commit adultery]

Who may be tempted? [Every married person]

How does God say to decrease the temptation to 'incontinency'?  [By not defrauding (denying) your spouse when he or she wants sex]

Who is responsible to decrease temptation?  [Each is responsible to help the other by not defrauding] 

How?  [Both should render sex with kindness when spouse desires and both should exercise self control] 

How often should one render due benevolence?  [Whenever reasonably  possible except for a mutually-agreed time of prayer and fasting]

What does defraud mean? [To keep or hold back what is owed (as in a contract), to cheat, to fail to honor an obligation]

Genesis 2:24--- (God said:) ^‘Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.’

1 Corinthians 6:16 --  What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he (God) shall be one flesh.

Hebrews 13:4--  Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge (NKJV).

Comment: God considers sex is an important marital duty (Greek: eunoia’ conjugal duty, benevolence) that is meant to be a kindness in marriage. God created sex to be a good thing for marriage. It is not sinful or a dirty act that God forgives in order to produce babies. Babies are an added blessing. Sex was originally created to be a duty of kindness ordained by God to be enjoyed in marriage — because God originally said “the two shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24).  According to the New Testament verse, 1 Corinthians 6:16,  "one flesh" is understood to mean sexual intercourse.  Therefore, sexual intercourse in marriage is a special blessing and a conjugal duty of kindness (benevolence) that helps hold marriages together by reducing the temptation to commit adultery.