Sex in Marriage (God's word and view) Last
revision: 2017-05-02
1 Cor 7:1-5 (KJV) --
1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me:
It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man
have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence (#2133): and likewise also
the wife unto the husband.
4 The wife hath not power (#1850) of her own body, but
the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but
the wife.
5 Defraud (650) ye not one the other, except it be with
consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come
together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
Strong's Exhaustive Concordance
Original Hebrew and Greek Words in the King James Bible
Word # 2133- eunoia- kindness: euphem.
conjugal duty:- benevolence,
good will.
Word # 1850- exousiazo- to control: exercise
authority upon, being under the (have) power of.
Word # 650- apostereo- to despoil, defraud, destitute,
keep back by fraud.
Questions:
What is 'due benevolence'? [Conjugal duty given in kindness]
Who has authority over sex?
[The spouse has authority over the sexual activity of the partner]
What does 'incontinency' mean? [Lack of self-control or temptation to commit
adultery]
Who may be tempted? [Every married person]
How does God say to decrease the temptation to 'incontinency'? [By not defrauding (denying) your spouse when
he or she wants sex]
Who is responsible to decrease temptation? [Each is responsible to help the other by not
defrauding]
How? [Both should render
sex with kindness when spouse desires and both should exercise self control]
How often should one render due benevolence? [Whenever reasonably possible except for a mutually-agreed time of
prayer and fasting]
What does defraud mean? [To keep or hold back what is owed
(as in a contract), to cheat, to fail to honor an obligation]
Genesis 2:24--- (God said:) ‘Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother,
and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.’
1 Corinthians 6:16 -- What?
know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he
(God) shall be one flesh.
Hebrews 13:4-- Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed
undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge (NKJV).
Comment: God
considers sex is an important marital duty (Greek: eunoia’ conjugal duty, benevolence) that is meant to be a kindness in
marriage. God created sex to be a good thing for marriage. It is not sinful or a
dirty act that God forgives in order to produce babies. Babies are an added
blessing. Sex was originally created to be a duty of kindness ordained by God
to be enjoyed in marriage — because God originally said “the two shall become
one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). According to the
New Testament verse, 1 Corinthians 6:16, "one flesh" is understood to mean
sexual intercourse. Therefore, sexual intercourse
in marriage is a special blessing and a conjugal duty of kindness (benevolence)
that helps hold marriages together by reducing the temptation to commit
adultery.
